Check out our new article on Infant Massage. There are many ways for moms and dads to bond with their baby, but infant massage provides not only the benefits of a bonding experience, but health benefits as well. Learn more about the infant massage here.
View some tips and information about baby separation anxiety in the early stages of the your babies life. As your baby starts to get older past one year old and into the 15 months through 18 months stages, they become more aware of their surroundings, who is there to take care of them for certain tasks, helping to feed them, change them, playtime, and more. Separation Anxiety is very common and something that most parents have to deal with. Many parents with Nannies or baby sitters go through it all the time when they leave their baby to go to work, their baby could cry out for their Mommy or Daddy. Some tips to help with separation anxiety are as follows and can help you ease the separation issues of you and your baby.
Being overly loving with your baby is a great thing and you should always be very loving to your baby. However, there is a point when it can be too much and lead your baby to not want to leave your side. If you are constantly holding the baby, hugging the baby, kissing the baby and you have separation anxiety yourself when the baby is independent, then it’s a given that your baby will pick up the same traits. Trying to help your baby become more independent will help you when it’s time to send your baby to day-care, pre-school, or leave your baby with a baby sitter, nanny, friend, or family member. Creating that sense of trust that you will be coming back is an important item and if the baby sees you worrying, it will only exacerbate the babies separation anxiety.
Leaving the house, many times when parents are around babies too much such as stay at home moms or stay at home dads, babies will get very used to having the parent around and when the parent leaves, it can be hard on the baby. Many babies get focused on toys, playing, and it may be good to create a situation where you can leave the house without the baby seeing you. Make sure the baby has someone to look after them and try to make your leave more subtle than this big departure as they may get upset if you make it out to a very big deal. However, when a baby gets a little older creating a good routine to explain to your baby or toddler that you will be coming back is a good thing.
If you leave for vacation for a while, you’re baby may go through some seperation anxiety issues as they are so used to have certain people around them. Make sure to pay extra attention to your baby and guide them through the times when you are there and when you may not be there through consistent schedules, routines, and ensuring the baby is getting activity, play dates and fun time with other babies and is properly napped.
September 1, 2011 No Comments
When my two children were still babies, I used to do Infant Massage with them. I would tear up every time because it was such a special bonding experience. Those squishy little cuties would just lay there and stare into my eyes and I would get overwhelmed with feelings. It probably didn’t help that I was an emotional basketcase for at least a year after I had given birth. But it really is a special time when you can focus solely on your little one, and I think it’s something that every parent should experience.
Dads, if you’re looking for a way to bond with your new baby, this is it! It doesn’t take a lot of time but it provides many benefits for both you and baby. You can learn more about it in our new article:
If you use infant massage on your baby or have in the past, please share your experiences in the comments!
February 5, 2010 No Comments
I have a cool contest for my Canadian readers today thanks to the awesome people at FabulousSavings. If you’d like to win a $50 gift card for Toys ‘R Us, keep reading!
The rules are simple.
Visit FabulousSavings.ca and answer the following question:
“Name a coupon listed in our Home & Garden category.”
Just leave a comment below with your answer and the winner will be chosen randomly on January 4, 2010 to receive a big fat $50 gift card.
You must be a Canadian resident to participate. Sorry to my dear readers outside of Canada. I’ll have something special for you soon!
Don’t forget to check out online coupons for Canada to save a few bucks!
December 16, 2009 28 Comments
Whether you’re trying to conceive or looking for a birth control method, a period calendar is a free option that you can use by itself or in addition to other methods.
A period calendar is a great way to keep track of your menstrual cycle, ovulation, and the side effects of your period. The simplest period calendar is just that; you write down your period every month and eventually can determine your cycle and predict when your period will be (usually within a day or so, depending on how regular you are).
Start by marking the first day of your period as day one and keep count from there. A standard cycle is 28 days with ovulation occurring on about day 14. As you keep track, you may find that your cycle is shorter or longer.
While most women have a cycle close to 28 days, it’s not uncommon to have a much longer cycle. You may also find that yours is not regular, meaning it varies in length from month to month. Many things, especially stress, can change your monthly cycle, but many women naturally have irregular cycles, especially when they first start menstruating.
Tracking your monthly cycle will not only help you know your period is coming ahead of time, it can also help you when it comes to birth control.
If you make some additions to your calendar, like pelvic discomfort and discharge, you can accurately predict when you’re going to be ovulating. That means you can use extra protection or abstain from sex during that time of the month.
This method, called the timing method, is not very effective in preventing pregnancy, but many times that is because it is not used properly. You must use extra protection or abstain from sex before and during your monthly ovulation. This method also isn’t effective if your cycle isn’t regular.
While many people use the period calendar to prevent pregnancy, it is also commonly used by those trying to conceive. By knowing when you’re going to ovulate, you can time your most fertile window more accurately. In this case, you may also want to use your calendar to track your core body temperature.
Just like with preventing pregnancy, this is not as effective if your cycle is not regular. If you have trouble getting pregnant while using this method, you may find it helpful to purchase fertility monitors.
Besides being able to predict your period and ovulation, a period calendar can also help you track the undesired side effects of your period like premenstrual syndrome (PMS) or the more serious disorder premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD).
By tracking things like physical discomfort or pain, mood swings, anxiety, and other physical and emotional conditions, you may be able to identify one of these problems. With your help, your doctor can accurately identify and treat your specific problem.
By keeping a period calendar, you can not only be prepared for your period ahead of time, you can also start to take control of your cycle and everything associated with it.
November 30, 2009 No Comments
In the past few months, both of my children have changed so drastically that it’s hard to believe.
My daughter started Kindergarten this year and my son is now in preschool. These were huge changes for the kids and a big change for me as well.
I was happy that my kids were getting a chance to play and interact with other children their age, but I was also sad when I realized how quickly it all happened.
My son is learning how to talk better every day and new words are always popping out of his mouth. The days of him saying things like “strawbies” instead of “strawberries” or “ladybuggy” instead of “ladybug” are over. My daughter can’t curl up in my lap like she used to because she’s getting so big.
They always say that “children grow up fast so you better enjoy them while you can”, but they were wrong. They don’t just grow up fast. They mature with lightning speed! Don’t just treasure each smile or each hug. Treasure every single second, even the ones where they’re screaming their heads off in the grocery store.
Take lots of pictures and videos. Save their drawings and crafts. Squeeze in as many hugs and kisses and cheek pinches as they’ll allow, even if they’re sleeping, because no matter how many you manage to get in each day, it’ll never be enough. And don’t ever let anyone tell you you’re spoiling your baby if you hold them too much. You can never hold them enough!
Every stage your baby goes through since they’re born has its ups and downs, but the ups always make the downs worth it.
October 22, 2009 2 Comments
Even though it may be the last thing you want to hear, the holidays are coming. Yes indeedy.
I normally love Christmas because I really enjoy spending time with my family and eating lots of good food! I especially love how much my kids love it. But figuring out what to buy everyone and seeing the bank statements at the end of the month isn’t quite as enjoyable.
I’m typically a huge procrastinator but this year I am on the ball. I know what everyone is getting and I’ll have it all before the middle of December which is a record for me. It’s a great feeling and a huge stress relief so it’s definitely worth it to get the gift part out of the way as early as possible.
I always like to come up with gifts that are memorable and meaningful when it comes to babies and adults. If there are any babies in your family, I have some cute personalized baby gift ideas that will be meaningful for years to come.
For older kids, toys are always a winner and I happen to know of some discounts going on at Chapters.Indigo.ca where you can get up to 75% off. Check them out and save some money. That’s where I bought half of my gifts last year.
Once you get all your shopping done, the only thing you’ll have to worry about is where to hide the presents so prying eyes won’t find them!
October 16, 2009 No Comments
Defending your parenting choices – Have you ever been attacked by another parent (or even someone who isn’t a parent) because of something you do or don’t do with your own child? Have you attacked other parents because you have a different opinion than them?
Mommy “Growth” Time – Until recently, I haven’t had much interaction with other moms. I’m a work at home mom so I don’t get out much. Now that my kids are in preschool and kindergarten, I get to talk to other moms who have kids the same age as mine and I have to say that it’s a breath of fresh air! It’s amazing how it can make a positive impact.
Just Another Mommy Moment – Now I don’t feel so bad that my son farted in the drugstore and blamed it on me.
September 18, 2009 No Comments
A concerned parent recently emailed me with a question that I thought I’d share. She is worried about her son not being able to say more than “mama” and “papa” at 22 months old.
My son turned 3 in February and at the time, he didn’t have very many words in his vocabulary yet. I was worried because a lot of other kids his age that I know were speaking full sentences.
It’s been 7 months since then and now I can’t get him to stop talking! He seemed to develop a huge vocabulary overnight. My daughter (who is now 5 years old) was the same way. In fact, almost any baby I know is similar.
When it comes to development, it’s important to remember that each child develops at their own pace. Nobody is the same so it’s hard to judge when the right time is that they should be saying certain words or doing certain things.
As long as they’re healthy and continuing to grow and develop, everything should be fine.
To help your child learn how to communicate, speak to them all the time. When you’re out for a walk, talk about the things you see. When you’re at home, have conversations with them, even if it seems a bit one-sided.
Reading to your child often will also help them with their vocabulary skills. Dr. Seuss books have always been a favorite with my kids. They’re also recommended by teachers to help children learn how to speak and read.
Around 19-24 months, your child may be able to string a few words together to form short sentences. If they aren’t at that point yet, you can have your family doctor evaluate him. He may even be referred to a speech-language pathologist.
Just remember that if your child isn’t talking at the same level as another child who is the same age, it doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. They may just need a bit more time like my own son did.
September 17, 2009 No Comments
During my pregnancies, I had a lot of people coming up to me and rubbing my belly. Some people just love to touch a pregnant mommy’s tummy. Sometimes, those pregnancy mommies love it too. Other mommies, not so much. A lady I worked with said she used to freak out on anyone who touched her tummy without asking. If they did ask, she would say “no”.
I didn’t like it when strangers felt my tummy, but friends and family were always welcome. How about you?
September 16, 2009 No Comments
Each Tuesday I’ll be posting a short but helpful tip that I’ve either learned myself through experience or through other parents. Parenting isn’t all about instinct. A lot of it involves trial and error. Something a lot of parents struggle with is sleep. I know I sure did. My babies slept really well but they both had stages where they would wake up extremely early.
If the sun comes up early and your child is up and ready to go even though you just got to bed, try using a timer on a nightlight in their room. Even if they’re very young, you can still explain to them each night that it’s only time to get up when the nightlight goes off. Eventually they will understand.
Many parents have had success with this and it has helped them add at least another blissful hour of sleep to their morning.
September 15, 2009 No Comments